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Reading List

Below is a list of recommended reading related to relationship violence, stalking and other forms of violence.  Please note that this is not an exhaustive list and is only intended as a starting point in furthering your knowledge of these topics.
Bancroft, Lundy. Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (2003)

Bancroft, Lundy. Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can – And Should – Be Saved (2011)

Bancroft, Lundy. When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse (2005)

Crompton, Vicki & Kessner, Ellen Zelda. Saving Beauty from the Beast: How to Protect Your Daughter from an Unhealthy Relationship (2004).

De Becker, Gavin. The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence (1999)

Dugan, Meg Kennedy & Hock, Roger. It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence (3rd edition – 2018)

Evans, Patricia. The Verbally Abusive Relationship (2010)

Herman, Judith. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror (2015)

Murray, Jill. But I Love Him: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Dating Relationships (2001)

Stark, Evan. Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life (2009)
Bancroft, Lundy. When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse (2005)

Gray, Lisa. They Don’t Tell: Child Abuse: A Mother’s Perspective (2015)
Matsakis, Aphrodite. The Rape Recovery Handbook: Step-By-Step Help for Survivors of Sexual Assault (2003)

Robinson, Lori. I Will Survive: The African-American Guide to Healing from Sexual Assault and Abuse (2003)
The Mindfulness Project. I am here now: A creative mindfulness guide and journal (2016)
Cori, Jasmine Lee. Healing from Trauma: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding Your Symptoms and Reclaiming Your Life (2008)

Dugan, Meg Kennedy & Hock, Roger. It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence (3rd edition – 2018)

Herman, Judith. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror (2015)

King, Ruth. Healing Rage: Women Making Inner Peace Possible (2008)

Matsakis, Aphrodite. The Rape Recovery Handbook: Step-By-Step Help for Survivors of Sexual Assault (2003)

Matsakis, Aphrodite. Trust After Trauma: A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them (1998)

Rothschild, Babette. 8 Keys to Safe Trauma Recovery (2010)

Robinson, Lori. I Will Survive: The African-American Guide to Healing from Sexual Assault and Abuse (2003)

van der Kolk, Bessel. The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (2015)

Williams, Mary Beth. PTSD Workbook: Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms (2016)
Bancroft, Lundy. Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That? Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men (2015)

Brown, Brene. I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough” (2007)

Brown, Brene. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (2010)

Brown, Brene. Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (2017)

Burns, David. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy (2008)

Harris, Russ. The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living (2008)

Harris, Russ. The Reality Slap: Finding Peace and Fulfillment When Life Hurts (2012)

Neff, Kristin. The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength and Thrive (2018)

Sandberg, Sheryl. Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy (2017)

Shannon, Jennifer. Don’t Feed the Monkey Mind: How to Stop the Cycle of Anxiety, Fear and Worry (2017)
Brown, Austin. I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness (2018)

Kendi, Ibram X. How to be an Anti-Racist (2019)

Kendi, Ibram X. Stamped from the Beginning (2017)

King, Ruth. Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out (2018)

Oluo, Ijeoma. So You Want to Talk About Race (2019)

Saad, Layla F. Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor (2020)